From Triangulation to Freedom

triangulation

Oh I love it when a “surprise” comes into my energy.  To be honest though, the surprising energy has long been there. It’s easier to just, not see it. We deal with issues as we can.  Today, triangulation.

I first heard this word years ago. I was told, “You’re being triangulated.” I didn’t understand what this meant but from reading body language, I didn’t think it was a good thing.

Today, as I was trying to take an energy/vibration/situation and find the right word, this was the word that formed in my mind. I googled and found several good articles already written on the topic and have noted them below for your further reading pleasure.

In trying to find a simple definition, I’ve borrowed this from Wiki:  Triangulation is a situation in which one family member will not communicate directly with another family member, but will communicate with a third family member, which can lead to the third family (can also think broad here) member becoming part of the triangle. Triangulation can also be a form of “splitting” in which one person plays the third member against one that he or she is upset about; playing the two people against each other.

Can I tell you, you just can’t win in triangulation and it happens more than we realize. It can happen in any family/friend/work relationship. I’d bet if one pays attention, they’ll see it, in its many forms. Children of divorce, dysfunctional families and even very “normal” families.

Triangulation is a game of old school telephone. Often the original message is lost. Or like an email and not all parties are cc’ed.  It also creates… drama.

Triangulation

Triangulation forms a boundary; a block. Someone’s inability to normally function. This does take extra energy and could be for so many reasons (unresolved past hurt/pain/patterns). Therefore, it’s the opposite of spirituality which is about unity, inclusion, healing and love. Ease and flow.

So in an effort to keep this short and sweet, here’s a few possible recommendations:

  1. Identify the situation. This is half of the battle. Often we are so busy and automatic, we don’t take a pause to realize.
  2. Allow the situation to show you the lesson. This may take time.  Be patient and support of self.  You might now see how many times you’ve been in this situation. Dynamics might change but the overall lesson/issue will be the same.  Evolve.
  3. Decided what action (if any) you’ll take. You are grown up now 🙂  Sometimes it’s about realizing and releasing. That a-ha and then from there you’re different and therefore hold a different vibration. You can only change your behavior and it can be so simple. Just don’t place your energy in the triangle.  No announcement/explanation is even needed.

I know that whatever I wish to ignore/judge, is also me so it could be easy to say it’s another’s issue.  When you go a bit deeper, asking yourself, where do I triangulate?  Where are you not being direct and honest… with yourself or another?  The spiritual journey is about living as your authentic self.  Take off the mask.  Take a step outside of your comfort zone and speak your truth.  Walk your walk.  Empower yourself… and others.  Allow a triangulation situation to assist you in finding, freedom.

 

Other articles I found on the topic:

http://www.sowhatireallymeant.com/articles/conflict/venting-and-triangulation/

2nd picture and article:  http://jonsi-jonsi.blogspot.com/2013/03/triangulation-explained.html

wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangulation(psychology)

1st picture found at: http://www.marykatebrogan.com/triangulation-psychology/

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One comment on “From Triangulation to Freedom

  1. Reblogged this on 2020 Spiritual Vision and commented:

    I do often find the cyclical nature of this journey interesting (I wrote this a year ago). I guess one could say that some lessons get reviewed/revisited several times until one gets it; the depth of the lesson. And interesting since I’ve been seeing triangles often here lately. The lesson/situation often presents in different set of dynamics yet the core issue remains the same. Remember we came here to realize and traverse an interesting terrain. To bring to light and a higher vibration. So while this might not fit another’s current situation, I share again for those who need to find and move forward in love, light and appreciation.

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